Planning in advance for divorce can be beneficial. You can gather financial information so that your spouse can’t hide assets. You can make plans for the future, such as considering your budget or where you’re going to live. It helps to have paperwork and legal documentation in place, so it’s important to look for red flags that mean your spouse may file for divorce in the near future.
The following are a few potential red flags, although every relationship is unique. If you see these signs, they could indicate that a divorce is coming up.
Your disagreements change
If there is a change in the frequency of your arguments or disagreements, it could indicate there are problems with the relationship. If your arguments increase, it could mean you are fundamentally unhappy with the relationship. If the arguments decrease, it could mean that your spouse has checked out and decided to file for divorce.
You don’t enjoy spending time together
A common red flag is when you and your spouse begin finding excuses to stay apart. You spend more time at work or more time going out with friends. When you do spend time together, there’s no connection and you feel like you don’t have anything to talk about.
You begin to feel like roommates
Finally, many people will say that they knew they needed to get a divorce because they felt like their spouse was just a roommate, sharing rent or mortgage payments, but little else. They don’t make plans for the future. They don’t have an intimate or romantic relationship. They’re just two people who are continuing to live together until they dissolve the relationship.
If you do find yourself in this position, carefully consider all of your options while moving through the divorce.